Impactisfaction & Fear of Failure

The number one reason you’re not where you want to be in life right now, is because you fear your own impact…

Ok ok, let’s step back for a moment now, maybe that was too much too soon… However that realization was the realization that changed my life forever, it saved me, and set me on a path were success was inevitable.

I even made it a point, in the very moment of figuring that out, to record a message to myself stating why my life was not where I wanted it to be.

Being able to flat out explain the reality of my situation to myself, by myself, for the first time ever, was humbling, sobering, angering, and above all completely necessary. It allowed me to shift into a state of action that to this day continues to grow in intensity and purpose. I used to be that person who sat by on the sideline watching people other live out their dreams… Not any more, I’m on the field and I’m going for goal!

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I will admit that I look good in green, but green with envy WAS NOT MY COLOR! I knew right then I had to make a change, and I knew it wasn’t going to be easy.

Beneath it all, I knew I could do it, (I had that voice in my head saying, “YOU CAN DO IT!”) and that was the most important part.

You see I believe in love, tough love, I believe in brutal honesty, and more importantly I believe in loving compassion. Any other method to growth is very likely passive (yea I said it,) and long-winded.

I know healing, growth, and manifestation takes time, but let’s be honest we all got sheeeeet to do…

I’m not wasting your time OR mine, and the truth is, I don’t know how much time I have left to live, and neither do you…

Now, if your anything like me, (which I’m sure you are, at least a lil’ bit,) an aspiring entrepreneur, go-getter, get shit done-er, and/or manifestor, you already have an understanding of self-efficacy. Self-efficacy is just a fancy word for self-reliance, and/or the capability to produce results on your own terms. If you just learned a new word today, kudos!

Knowledge IS power my friend.

On the flip side of that same coin, you may be a procrastinator, a complainer, unskilled, or downright lazy (whomp whomp whaaaa.) I’m not going to hold that against you, we’ve all been there at SOME point on our journey. However, the goal is to keep moving through the muck.

Now, where you are right now is perfectly fine if you’re taking the initiative to get to where you want to be… If you WANT to be lazy or a complainer, very calmly grab that plug connected to the back of your computer, (the one labeled POWER) and just yank it out… Go ahead, just free yourself of this powerful lesson in growth, because I’m NOT here to convince doubters… LAZY is lumpy gravy, on mashed PITYatoes… and it turns out I’m on a diet.

Anyway, if you’re ready to work (which I’m sure you are) let’s move out.

Now, understand that there are levels to everything you want in life. You may not be at the level that you want to be right now, and that’s ok my friend. With continuous and consistent movement in the right direction and with the right support, nothing can stop you! When you develop a hunger for your dreams that surpasses your hunger to eat, nothing will stop you!

I’m sure you’ve heard a millions ways to manifest your dreams by now, law of attraction, set it and forget it, vision boards, etc, etc, etc.

The reality is this, the only way to GUARANTEE you get the life you want, is to ACTIVELY GO GET IT.

Ascend, Build, Create. Step by step… Day by day (lol remember that show!) Ok ok, for realsies. Gameface back on. RAWR! The only way to guarantee you get what you want in life is to be active about it.

Ok, so are you ready to hear this again… The number one reason you’re not where you want to be in life right now, is because you fear your own impact… You’re refusing, you’re avoiding, you’re scared, or you’re just not ready to put yourself “out there”. Therefore you are not going to receive the abundance available to those who do. I don’t say that to put you down my friend, I say that to bring you up.

Look, I don’t know everything about you, but I know this…

You MUST be responsible for the life you live, whatever age you may be.

I want you to be honest about where you are, where you want to be, and what’s missing in the equation to make that happen.

If you’re in the first two categories (refusing or avoiding), evaluation is necessary. If you’re in the last two categories (scared or just not ready), evaluation is necessary. Understand that some people are in all four categories, and they’re just plain confused… I pity them, I truly do. This is not coming from a place of judgment either, this is coming from experience. I WAS PITIFUL! I was refusing to take charge of my life, and I was scared to! I wish that you couldn’t relate to that, but I know that you can…

I was scared to take charge of my own life, MY OWN LIFE! WTF…

That is truly unacceptable.

I’m sure you’ve been in one or more of these categories at some point in your life too, and honestly it sucks… You know what makes it worst? When the number one thing holding you back, is you. Not some outside influence, not your mom, your dad, your job, your kids, or your significant other… You… Yea that really sucks, oh yes it does… It sucks, it hurts, and it’s painful, BUT, that pain is THE BEST PAIN YOU’RE EVER GOING TO FEEL, and that is a fact. Why is it the best pain you’re ever going to feel? (Aside from child birth, and yes that goes for you men too.) The answer is very simple, and can be summed up into one word, ACCOUNTABILITY.

You have taken on the accountability and better yet the responsibility to take full control of your life! You have chosen to get off the boat, and become the tide! Yes my elemental friend we can be the tide. That is your choice to make and if you are ready to make that choice… Congratulations, seriously, if you are truly ready to take that step I commend you…

A lot of people would rather play the drowning victim their whole life, getting pushed this way and pulled that way. However you can play the Moon, and you can control when the tides are high and when the tides are low.

It’s not easy, but if you’ve read this far my friend, you’re strong enough to handle it… And I have a sneaking suspicion that’s what you really want anyway…

All right you’ve spent enough time sitting here reading, let’s get you into action!

— ACTION STEPS —

1) For this exercise, I want you to record yourself (via audio or video,) answering the questions listed below. I want you to record, instead of write or type so that you can allow yourself to be as emotional and heartfelt as possible. Also you’ll have the ability to listen to yourself at a later date. After you record this, label it, save it somewhere, and don’t listen to it until 1month, 3months, or 6months from now… Hey you might even forget about it (like I did,) and discover it randomly, listen to it and say, “Wow, I’ve come a long way!”

— QUESTIONS to ask yourself —

Read the question out loud, and then answer.

1) Am I where I want to be in life? (Answer yes or no)

If yes:

1a) Stop reading this and go celebrate with your closest friends.

If no: Say this statement out loud

1b) “I’m not where I want to be in life because…” and then finish the sentence.

(Record a 30sec-3min message answering this question. Be brutally honest, but more importantly be lovingly compassionate with yourself.)

Stay Tuned…

-Bandele-

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“His disarming presence as well as his wise words of wisdom have helped cultivate a more positive meaningful direction in my life and helped me confront many of my character flaws with out any dissatisfaction.” – Omar Delcid


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